Showing posts with label Muslim marriage Act. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Muslim marriage Act. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

This has gotta change [80/365]

Religion is the crutch of weak people.

World over, more men have used religion to rule and subdue women.
The headlines today was an eye opener to how another man has used the tool of the triple talaq to his advantage.
Shahtaj Khanum, former deputy mayor of Bangalore and married woman, narrated how her husband gave her the triple talaq through an newspaper advertisement almost a year ago. (Read the exciting story unfold here)

Apparently, the estranged husband divorced her after she lost the last elections. How convenient.
That the chap decided to divorce his wife through the newspaper when the registered mail came back undelivered was at best unimaginative, at worst a sign of utter weakness.
Now c'mon, we've heard infamous tales of young lovers breaking up over an SMS and companies firing their CEO over a phone call, but this? Now, this has got to change.

The last time I wrote about talaq, quite a few readers who were hurt at the facts I stated insisted I rewrite them to make it appear less caustic than it was. I refused. 

It is easy to sympathize with the victim, a lady, in this case. If she was a victim of much abuse, then what made her wait so long before she decided to come public?
Throughout the article, we hear a lot of posturing. File the goddamn suit, lady. Stop threatening.
Why did the guy not have the balls to say the triple talaq in the presence of his wife, like he was legally supposed to do. She is not a fugitive!

And if you look carefully, there is a lot of money and a child involved here. Talaq be damned, any divorce is bad news for the child. While the facts are obviously against the estranged husband, the root of the evil is much deeper.
The lady here is not a saint either.
According to her statement, she allowed the husband to misuse her political clout to amass wealth and admits feeling useless to her husband since she lost in the elections. See any red flags here?
If she is as honest and strong willed as she proclaims herself to be, she would've nailed his ass for graft and not traded her self esteem for a term in office.

Which makes me think. What are they fighting for now? 
Wealth? Possible. 
Custody of their daughter? Does not look like it. The husband didn't appear too excited about the idea. 
Integrity? By washing their dirty laundry in public, they can kiss any last bits of integrity goodbye.
Fame? Maybe. She does reiterate her desire to make this a monumental judgement ala Shah Bano.

But what has got to change is how unscrupulous men, and bitter women, use divorce laws as a way of getting at eachother. No more.

This post is an Official entry for Stayfree's Time To Change hosted by IndiBlogger.
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Sunday, February 05, 2012

Dawn of sense [35/365]

Today's newspapers should have come with a warning for Cricket lovers and amorous Muslim men in India:
Make sure you sit down before you read any further.

Sahara, the real estate conglomerate who has been sponsoring the over rated, under performing, uber rich Indian cricket team for well over a decade now, finally decided to pull the plug and the rug from underneath the BCCI. (The delightful news here)
What took them so long?
Sahara in one swift move has turned the tables on the most influential cricketing board in the planet. Now cricket in India has always been The sport to follow. But with the current debacle Down Under and a team with more senior citizens (aka Veterans) than in the government, I wonder if any company would want to take a bet and decide to sponsor the team on any of its fully paid vacations abroad and around the country. The company statement was more of an emotional plea than anything else.
While it is easy to see the economics of money in sport, I'd make more sense if the sponsor would have a say on the performance of it's beneficiaries. Like in any corporate today, the consistent performer should be rewarded better than a fair weather, good pitch hitter. But I guess that could be asking for too much especially the way they are playing. But then the question I would like to ask is, why are the players spending more time and effort selling themselves on screen if they cannot win a match? Well, I may not be a cricket buff (or would hate to describe myself one) but all those million dollar paychecks that our cricketers get simply does not make sense. At all.
Overall, a bad day for the Indian Cricket board.

And the day was not looking any better for Muslim men either.
A historic judgement was to be passed by Muslim scholars in India. No more triple talaq. (Shocking news here)
For the uninitiated, Muslim men are allowed to keep up to four wives under the Sharia law. But allowed to marry only one, obviously because the law recognizes that the man cannot care and do justice to more than one wife. Smart!
Why? Well, the reason is hardly spiritual. After years of bloody wars that left many nations with a skewed sex ratio, entire societies were left with more widows and spinsters than eligible men. Islamic countries encouraged their men to take more wives in to solve this supply & demand dilemma. Women on the other hand, are prohibited from having more than one husband.
And if you thought men had all the aces in choosing a wife for himself, then you haven't heard about the divorce yet.
Muslim men can divorce his wife just by uttering the talaq thrice. You won't even need a witness and in countries where polygamy is actively encouraged, the husband may not even need to wait for a period of time before uttering the third talaq.
But now with the landmark decision to disallow the triple talaq, I am guessing some of the most important arguments will be about how this law will restrict the freedom of a Muslim man. The women will be lucky to get any representation at all. While polygamy can be a good thing for certain societies, I still think that is more of an exception than the rule.
(Recommended Read here)

While we still wait to see how BCCI will bend over backwards to accommodate it's strongest sponsor, or if the law prohibiting the triple talaq will be passed and enforced as a law, this is certainly the beginning of the end.

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