Showing posts with label Virtue. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Virtue. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Mums' the word

Two days after the planet celebrated 'Mother's Day', DNA had a headline that made me throw up: 'Woman sells 12 year old daughter to pay off debts'.
Besides the initial feelings of disgust what rushed to my mind was this could be an Indian woman. In-sensitized to the almost daily flood of female infanticide and sexual assaults, Indian readers are emotionally anesthetized to headlines like this.

What shocked me was the news report
It described in detail, how the Australian mother sold her 12 year old daughter to over 100 men so that she could pay off her home loan and buy two luxury cars.
The law took its course and unlike in India where a case like this would have been sensationalized with masala mixed 'stories' will probably give the Mother, a life sentence.
What surprises me is the meticulous and completely heartless planning that went into this.

When the 41 year old mother decided to prostitute her daughter, what was she thinking?
Better sense and all that defines a woman had to take a backseat when she went on to rent a hotel room and bought 2 packs of condom and set the price of a 'session'.

She obviously isn't the first one and will definitely not be the last human that will shock and outrage our public consciousness. We will continue to have fathers who will rape and father their daughter's own children and mothers who will use their daughters and sons for economic and sexual gains.

Our world, a tiny pixel in the vast unexplored expanse of Universe, is home to amazing contrasts.
While we have such glowing examples of self sacrifice and unconditional love and emotional bonding, we also have monsters like this unnamed Mom.

Behind all the headlines, I would love to know how the mother justified her actions.
After the 'sale' was over, I am curious to know what the mother did when the daughter was 'back'?
What did the mother think when she bought the luxury cars for herself?
I wonder what the victim is going through?
What did the 12 year old girl think when she was being systematically raped for over 2 weeks? And worse still, that girl will live with devastating diseases she had no way to prevent.
What will she think about Mothers on Mother's Day?

In Proverbs 31, we see God's definition of a virtuous woman. Obviously, our mother here is an epic fail when it comes to virtue.
How could a parent who is supposed to be the guardians of their children, turn into Monsters that cannibalize on their children's lives.

I have had wonderful parents but have known a dear friend of mine whose mom allowed her husband to rape her.
What became of her is she turned out into this shell of a woman who lost all confidence in herself, became obsessed about getting approval on anything she did, could not hold down a job and struggled with trichotillomania.

We are not born monsters, but we loose sight of our divine goal.
It is said Man is the only creature on earth that can worry. With parents like these, is there any wonder why we don't enjoy eternal peace.

Greed begets Evil.
Or is it the other way around?
Either way, the real issue here is how an entire lifetime of a girl who probably didnt even know how human reproduction worked, has been damaged irreparably.

I have been a strong believer that chastity and virtue are 2 things that we have all the right to choose.
We might be living in poverty but we can still hold on to our chastity as our greatest treasure.

Prostitution, being the oldest profession in world has its greatest advocates and critics, but no logic any critic could conjure could defend a parent who allow their children's bodies to be used lecherous men or themselves.

As for this particular mother, she will probably spent the rest of her natural life behind bars and far away from the home and the cars that she paid for.
But we still fail to set a deterrent to future predators.
An oxymoron in itself, monster mothers and lecherous dads must be socially ostracized in the fullest extent.

Families should be the last place a child should feel threatened and insecure.
Its not about today, but about their tomorrows and the days after.

When will we be wake up from being politically right and just cut the crap?

Happy Mother's Day!

Tuesday, March 09, 2010

Virtuous Women maketh Progressive Societies

Its that time of the year when the newspapers are brimming with feminism.
March 8th : 'International Woman's day'
Woman in India can be anything but international or have a 'Day' to themselves.

It is said that a Society can be judged by the kind of headlines that come in their newspapers.

Today's paper was no different. Infact I loved the irony. We had 70% of the pages devoted to celebrating women and then a bunch of well heeled, designer wearing, globetrotting, Page-3 celebrities extolling values like Education, Career and Sex. Sex? True, the 5 women didn't mind women having premarital sex as long as you are discrete and safe!
Call me old fashioned, but I was sufficiently shocked to stop reading the article any further.
But Sex sells! And if 5 'celebrity socialites' recommend promiscuity, what can I say about that girl who walked out of her husband's house, lived with her boyfriend, got knocked up and dumped? You go Girl!

Buried amidst all the feminist clutter and the brouhaha of female power in today's India, a particular 7 inch article caught my eye. A scandal that involved a spiritual Guru and a leading regional movie actress. Ofcourse, the Guru has vehemently denied it and alleged that this is the attempt of commoners to tarnish him and his organization. But the actress, perhaps out of guilt or pure stupidity, tried to commit suicide. Does the suicide mean she is indeed guilty?


When the reporters move on and the Headlines fade away, the victim is still left bleeding, wounded by hungry reporters who like vampire bats, latched on till they got the complete dirt and when they were done, left a wound that is difficult to clot.
I am not a feminist in the conventional sense but as a commoner, and with the 3 decades of existence, can confidently say that Women in India are still a neglected yet exotic lot.

Western influences have allowed greater freedom of expression.
Advertisements that tell you that a fair skinned woman is smarter, sexier and luckier.
TV Soaps have stereotyped Indian women.

While premarital sex was frowned upon just a shade of a decade ago, now, we have quasi role models advocating (premarital) sex as a symbol of freedom.
Like most issues that are  forgotten, 'she' is an item that sells. 'She' is our object of lust. 'She' could have been empowered had we learned to take care of 'her needs' rather than 'our wants'.

I have always had that sniggering feeling inside me, we are desperately trying to ape the West. But like how we learn the slang in the new language before learning the good words, we are aping the weekend habits of the West, while forgetting to imitate the weekday ethics of the Developed world.
People in the West work upto 50 hours a week and produce results that matter.
The West respect their women by not only framing rules that are women friendly but by enforcing them too.
In more ways than one, we are a few generations behind the West. Promiscuity, Public Displays of affection and Media induced frenzy about Celebrations are not Indian. Not that I am against them, but all these celebrations are so commercialized? What do celebrations like these accomplish? Besides shopping discounts and eloquent articles advocating love, friendship and vanity, is there a meaningful change happening to the lady in the street?

Virtuous Wives, Blessed Mothers, Brave Women... that is what our societies need.

In 2 weeks, when all the hoopla dies down, women in India will wake up to the harsh reality that it is a Man's world in India.

Until then, our Women are busy shopping till they drop!


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